A second person being thrown into a relationship would be hard, and I almost had to deal with that. That is a situation I found myself in. I found myself in an unconsenting poly relationship, unable to figure it out due to lack of tech and seeing the other person.
I don’t mean to bring my personal life into it, but it’s import to make my point.
Personal tales are always good. Firsthand experience is worthy to be looked upon.
You can prove people experience sexual attraction to certain genders. You can prove people lack attraction. You can prove people can only experience attraction under specific circumstances. There are brain scans for that. But you can't prove people have the capability to maintain a healthy relationship with more than one person. I think wanting to be in a multi-relationship is a very real want. That doesn't make it an actual orientation or a realistic and healthy relationship status.
Was the brain scan thing for that, or all of it? Because as a
not reallyhomophobe, a brain scan to detect The Gay would be… most intriguing.
Imagine showing a gay man pictures of attractive men during a brain scan. Certain parts of the brain responsible for feelings of sexual tension, pleasure, and libido would light up.
So yes, brain scans can detect The Gay.
Someone has probably done it.
However, who's to say that a relationship should just be two? I say that if it's consensual, everyone involved is happy, and it is truly love, then it is perfectly fine. I don't think that a relationship should be painted as the wall as two people who love each other. I feel like that's kind of in the same boat as saying a relationship should be between a boy and a girl. I just think it's denying people's feelings or love because your ideals don't match it.
And what is that?
That is a question I cannot answer. Love is different to everyone. What I feel to be love may not be to someone else. Love is a universal feeling, but without a universal definition. Sure, you can look it up in the dictionary, but it's all about what it means to you.
Don't expect too much from me, btw. I am no debater.
However, who's to say that a relationship should just be two? I say that if it's consensual, everyone involved is happy, and it is truly love, then it is perfectly fine. I don't think that a relationship should be painted as the wall as two people who love each other. I feel like that's kind of in the same boat as saying a relationship should be between a boy and a girl. I just think it's denying people's feelings or love because your ideals don't match it.
And what is that?
That is a question I cannot answer. Love is different to everyone. What I feel to be love may not be to someone else. Love is a universal feeling, but without a universal definition. Sure, you can look it up in the dictionary, but it's all about what it means to you.
Don't expect too much from me, btw. I am no debater.
But
You can look it up in the dictionary
A place with definitions
So it does have a "universal definition"
And besides all that, there are plenty of things describing love and it's all basically the same.
But
You can look it up in the dictionary
A place with definitions
So it does have a "universal definition"
And besides all that, there are plenty of things describing love and it's all basically the same.
But is it really a universal definition? Think about it this way, not everyone sees the world the same. So not everyone is bound to see the word love the same. Sure, it's in a book that is meant to define everything as a plain black and white, no exceptions type thing. But really, love is a hard thing to put a face on. For some people, it may not be the "attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers". One of the many definitions written in the Merriam-Webster dictionary. What I'm saying is that what love is what you make of it. Not everybody thinks of love the same. Some people think that two people of the same sex being together isn't love and that it's just mental illness or something done wrong.
My rambling might just be becoming nonsensical, so I think I'll back off now.
Having one boyfriend is a fucking pain in the ass, having two would drive me over the edge
like, it’s just this lmao
Having one boyfriend is a fucking pain in the ass, having two would drive me over the edge
like, it’s just this lmao
Also my fear of people liking someone else more than me cannot handle my boyfriend having another girlfriend
it can't handle the idea that he would like someone else and only be going to homecoming with me because no one else would go with him and he needed a date, despite the fact that those were my reasons for going with him but let's ignore that because this isn't therapy
And besides all that, there are plenty of things describing love and it's all basically the same.
I mean, Nie's definitions were very separate. One was lust. The other was "that fluttery feeling" that lovers have.
Neither of which are love.
Love is making a commitment to someone to be there for them. It is to care for that person's goodwill, even if it means saying or doing things that they don't like, because you care for them.
(All of them, as opposed to lust which is interested mainly in one thing or that single thing. Or as opposed to those that chase the feeling and don't do anything to break the glorious "being in love emotion".)
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(All of them, as opposed to lust which is interested mainly in one thing or that single thing. Or as opposed to those that chase the feeling and don't do anything to break the glorious "being in love emotion".)
(Dom I just want you to know that my immediate thought was 'have you e'er felt a sudden lust for soup?)
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If everyone in the relationship knows about and is chill with everyone else, then I don't really care, you do you. But when the others involved are kept in the dark so one person can have multiple partners at the same time, I'm not cool with that.
If everyone in the relationship knows about and is chill with everyone else, then I don't really care, you do you. But when the others involved are kept in the dark so one person can have multiple partners at the same time, I'm not cool with that.
After reading through the great points brought up by everyone, I'm going to have to say same here, but also extended to that FLDS church Owen talked about. Definitely not cool with that shiz.
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If everyone in the relationship knows about and is chill with everyone else, then I don't really care, you do you. But when the others involved are kept in the dark so one person can have multiple partners at the same time, I'm not cool with that.
Same, but also extended to that FLDS church Owen talked about. Definitely not cool with that shiz.
Yeah, that shit's not gonna fly with me.
(All of them, as opposed to lust which is interested mainly in one thing or that single thing. Or as opposed to those that chase the feeling and don't do anything to break the glorious "being in love emotion".)
(Dom I just want you to know that my immediate thought was 'have you e'er felt a sudden lust for soup?)
How odd.
If everyone in the relationship knows about and is chill with everyone else, then I don't really care, you do you. But when the others involved are kept in the dark so one person can have multiple partners at the same time, I'm not cool with that.
Same, but also extended to that FLDS church Owen talked about. Definitely not cool with that shiz.
Yeah, that shit's not gonna fly with me.
Well yeah but those aren't healthy (or even really correct) versions of polyamory. Actual polyamory is healthy and consenting
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Okay, normally I stalk, but I've got a think it two to say about polyamory.
I, myself, am polyamorous. However, I only have one boyfriend and I plan on keeping it that way because, from they way he has acted, he is not poly. I love this man, and we have worked to have a good relationship, and I'm not going to force him into anything he doesn't want.
Everything comes down to consent. I myself would never take on another partner without consent from any and all current partners, simply to make sure everyone can get along. In a polyamorous relationship, you cannot just claim to be in love with someone and take them as a partner without the approval of others, because this breeds jealously. Hell, jealously will be able to show up even if everyone does agree to the new partner. The key to a healthy polyamorous relationship is open communication, just like any other. You must communicate how you feel, and allow the group to help you with what is happening.
Yes, many claim polyamory to try to get away with cheating. However, it is still technically cheating if you do not discuss with your current partner taking up another or even just telling them. I know this is not a lifestyle for everyone, and I think it disgusting that people try to force it on others. If you really love someone, you'll respect their decisions, even if you don't like it.
So, yeah. I'm sorry if it's not really cohesive, I'm just spitting out words now.
I still don't believe someone can equally romantically love someone. Man cannot serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other.
Anyone heard the news? Who's in support of slapping camera's on our cops?
What news?
Can't get into it, because I'm not subscribed to WP, but I did see something about that guy this morning. I see no reason why officers shouldn't wear body cams.
I’m not big on them going and setting smaller businesses, aka things not target on fire and whatnot because those businesses will either take a long time to recover or just wont at all. Plus there was an autozone on fire and auto zones have chemicals in them…. chemicals + fire ain’t good mix
I think they fired the police officers involved with George Floyd’s murder, but honestly the officers involved or at least the one responsible for the killing should’ve received a murder charge for that.
And to add on at least one person has been killed as of result of the violent protests. It’s okay to protest, but once people start dying something isn’t right
I’m also Canadian so I know the law issues are pretty different compare to the states (we still have the same sort of discrimination that happens of course, it’s just not as heard about often and completely different situations and whatnot)
I’m curious on why the police officers used excessive force since the footage I’ve seen shows George Floyd NOT resisting arrest, so….
personally see no problem with it (the body cams) it does allow us to see a different perspective in situations like these to help come to a conclusion
Can't get into it, because I'm not subscribed to WP, but I did see something about that guy this morning. I see no reason why officers shouldn't wear body cams.
I think every news service is following it. https://www.npr.org/2020/05/28/863630502/investigation-into-george-floyds-death-a-top-priority-for-justice-department
Thanks Emi!
Those protests are evidently doing more harm than good. Stopping police brutality doesn't start with asking for it. Those protests are just putting more and more people in danger, drawing the attention of police who perhaps feel justified in practicing violence when they see these types of protests. It's not good for anybody.
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Body cams on cops is a good idea, and I don't really see why it hasn't been done already. It's an easy way to get an unbiased look at the story.
they do it in germany and it works well
I'm friends with a family over there where the dad is a cop
he's talked about it and they seem to be useful
cause frens wanted this debate out of another chat
ahem
Idk if we can debate it here because of it's closeness to abortion.
