You're right. That is not love. That is expecting someone to be an adult who follows through on what they promised. It's not me taking it away. It's keeping the person from getting off the train they signed up to be on.
True. But there is such a thing as counseling.
What happened to "yourself and your partner up as a single unit"? I talked about this abusive relationships are off the table because we all agree that divorce is sometimes the only option in that case.
But it is a forced contract. Though one you agreed to. Don't you feel you should be able to get out of that agreement if you do not want it anymore?
Being an adult is also recognizing that something isn't healthy and making the decision to let go. You wouldn't force an electronic to work if it was broken beyond repair. Counseling doesn't always work, and for the relationships that it does work, it is only a short fix and harbors resentment between the pair. Counseling often ends up in the couple realizing that separating is a better idea, it just makes it more amicable.
Marriage is not a contract, Dom. It's not: 'If you do this for me I will do this for you'. That makes it sound so robotic and sterile. People can be let out of vows and that is what happens in divorce. Both parties are signing that they are releasing the other from their vows to them. It is amicable, not one sided. Just like marriage and sex, there must be consent.
I said: Love is not a sacrifice, or selflessness, it's about building yourself and your partner up as a single unit to become one strong link. Don't take my words out of context :P That's bad form. I was describing that love and marriage are a partnership, not a sacrifice, and sometimes partners are not compatible to work together.
We keep bringing up abuse because that is what you are describing! You are not describing a healthy relationship between adults. You are describing something that is abusive and terrible to go through. I know what it is like to be in a relationship where your partner refuses to let you go. Its demeaning and hurtful and beyond stressful. Being in a healthy relationship means that both people are free to make decisions for themselves.
It's not a forced contract if I signed up for it, which I did. I gave the consent to use the card and the company controlling my card to charge me for it. Paying it off makes me happy. Not to mention that you can cancel your credit card at any time. It's just a hassle.
