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okay, guys, so I have this friend (help me)

@CW-BornConfuzzledLeftILoveYa forum 9 comments schedule

(yes, I know that I already posted about it on several threads, but I need help from everyone)
(it's ok if your opinion is different)

so I have a problem

I have this friend (she was on the work crew at camp, which I just returned from) and she didn't quite seem herself. It had been a while since I saw her, but I know that she was a happy, bubbly person, but at camp, she barely smiled. Sure, they (the work crew) was/were super busy, and tired, but something about her wasn't right. I can sometimes tell (face to face) when something's wrong, and this was kinda suspicious. With me, I smile all the time, and sometimes, an event triggers something and I get sad because of some stupid thing that I did. A few months earlier, I was paging through her art notebooks (with permission) and I came across the page with no art, just words. It said, "people probably don't like me because of my low self confidence" or something like that, and my view of her has never been the same. That was a few months ago, but I don't know…

That's all I can remember for now. If you need specific details, I can probably remember them.

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@Becfromthedead group

How close are you? Because if you're at least kind of close, you should definitely let her know "hey, I'm here for you," and definitely try to talk to her. And it sounds like she has very little confidence around people. Compliments won't hurt, and from people I know who have low confidence, it seems like emotional intimacy/trust are important… So make an effort to interact and be a good friend. It always helps to know for sure that there's someone out there who likes you and has faith in you.
That's about as much as I can contribute, I think. But I gave it my best shot.

Okay…let me try to answer questions.

So, we're kinda close, we text sometimes. I might tell her about my depression/anxiety, because I know she can take it, basically. I'm not 100% sure about her self confidence, but she is very happy and bubbly around people. In the work crew (from what i've gathered), there was almost no free time, so I dont know if she was bubbly or anything…?

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@Becfromthedead group

Yeah, I mean, honestly, at this point, just put forth an effort to be friends with her. It could 1. make her feel better about herself if something is up 2. help you figure out if she's alright and alternatively, if everything is all good, you have another good friend. So I mean, that approach is a win-win, I guess.

Yeah. I'm planning to invite her to my youth group on Sunday, so that'll be an opportunity if I get the chance to have her come to my house beforehand.

Also, I tell her she's beautiful a lot, and she's either annoyed or thinks I'm lesbian.

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@Becfromthedead group

Oh, well maybe don't do that so much then. I think compliments to her outfit, etc might be more effective than let's say, just a simple, "you're beautiful." Or keep them to a minimum, you know?

I never see her face to face, I just text. My mom reads sll of my texts for some reason, tho.

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@Becfromthedead group

Oh, I see. And I'm sorry… that's not fun at all.