Personal Venting Chat, New and Improved! (Without Jerks)

Well, I guess Imma throw a vent up in here.

Both pairs of my glasses are broken, while everyone else had a partner for a project I was stuck alone, people wouldn't stop asking me if I'm okay and I'm pretty sure that that's what caused me to have a total breakdown in the middle of the school day (luckily not right in front of anybody.) All day long, my teachers were yelling at me, a substitute I had had a really bad attitude. She obviously didn't care about being there. There is more than that, but I think I'm going to stop there.

In short, I had a bad day.

I know many people in my grade (8th) that are in stable and healthy relationships.

Darling, things look more innocent from the outside, and you're innocent yourself so I don't expect you to have noticed this but
I guarantee 90% of those "stable and healthy relationships" consist of them having sex and getting über jealous at every little thing

8th graders (and I say this as a sophomore with multiple friends in 8th grade) are not ready for a romantic and/or sexual relationship. They're children and not even in high school, and it takes an amount of emotional maturity that they lack to be in a real relationship. I'd say even freshmen and some sophomores lack it. Speaking on my own experiences as an eighth grader, they weren't genuine relationships, just "he's cute, I'll text him and we'll be ~dating~" for a few weeks, tops, and then 'break up' and it's awkward for everyone.

The person I'm currently dating, I have been dating since the start of 8th grade… Just so you know.

And? You're not in eighth grade anymore.

No, but even before I was in the 8th grade, I had some pretty serious relationships.
I dated a guy called Lucas for a year and a half, I still remember the way he was there for me when I felt so sad.
I dated a guy named Liam for a year who would listen to me perform in front of the school at lunch, and who didn't get mad at me for being a really bad cook back then.
I dated a guy named Ashley who took me on my first ever "Valentines Cinema Date", who laughed and joked with me even when I beat him in the school bake off (I mean I do make a pretty mean jam tart).

And then Josh. Oh my wonderful amazing Josh.
We met each other towards the end of 7th grade, I was stood behind a tree just singing to myself, and to be frank I was actually quite sad.
He was dating one of my friends at the time, so I didn't think we would become anything more than friends.
However he soon realised that, even as a friend, I cared for him way more than his girlfriend ever did.
We were in the 7th grade.

You talk about emotional maturity, and that 8th graders lack that. That they wouldn't be in a real relationship because of their "lack".
In my own experience, I have proven otherwise.
Do NOT make such a bold assumption based on your own experiences and what your friends do.
It is not the same for every individual person, do not include everyone in your statement.

Well, I guess Imma throw a vent up in here.

Both pairs of my glasses are broken, while everyone else had a partner for a project I was stuck alone, people wouldn't stop asking me if I'm okay and I'm pretty sure that that's what caused me to have a total breakdown in the middle of the school day (luckily not right in front of anybody.) All day long, my teachers were yelling at me, a substitute I had had a really bad attitude. She obviously didn't care about being there. There is more than that, but I think I'm going to stop there.

In short, I had a bad day.

Tip for subs: Don't talk to your neighbors, try not to be noticed, and if you have to go somewhere, smile a lot (but not creepily. You have to seem as genuine as you can. In other words, lie through your teeth and pretend to like them) and say please and thank you. Especially if they're awful and the whole class hates them. Even you how I got called a perfect little angel in fifth grade by the awful sub

Anyway, I hope tomorrow is better

That's why I keep my most recently outdated prescription glasses tucked away safely. If something happens to mine, I can just wear those and suffer a bit, or wear my prescription sunglasses.
Prescription sunglasses are an 11/10 investment, definitely recommend them if you have the means to get them!

I know many people in my grade (8th) that are in stable and healthy relationships.

Darling, things look more innocent from the outside, and you're innocent yourself so I don't expect you to have noticed this but
I guarantee 90% of those "stable and healthy relationships" consist of them having sex and getting über jealous at every little thing

8th graders (and I say this as a sophomore with multiple friends in 8th grade) are not ready for a romantic and/or sexual relationship. They're children and not even in high school, and it takes an amount of emotional maturity that they lack to be in a real relationship. I'd say even freshmen and some sophomores lack it. Speaking on my own experiences as an eighth grader, they weren't genuine relationships, just "he's cute, I'll text him and we'll be ~dating~" for a few weeks, tops, and then 'break up' and it's awkward for everyone.

The person I'm currently dating, I have been dating since the start of 8th grade… Just so you know.

Whoa. Impressive. You must have progressed as a person and matured a lot together.

Yes, we have.
We have had our ups and downs, as every relationship does. We go to different colleges and I live in a strict household, but no matter what has happened throughout the 4, almost 5 years, we have been dating, we have helped each other through it because we believe in each other, and we have done since we were 13.

That's why I keep my most recently outdated prescription glasses tucked away safely. If something happens to mine, I can just wear those and suffer a bit, or wear my prescription sunglasses.
Prescription sunglasses are an 11/10 investment, definitely recommend them if you have the means to get them!

There's not much I can do to keep my glasses safe so long as I have a sister.

Oh well.
I'll just actually vent.
Do you ever just have a really big insecurity that you hate about yourself but people don't seem to get how big it is so they try to make you face it or don't even realize that it is an insecurity at all so they keep trying to make it happen but you just really can't.
Cause that's exactly what's happening to me with my hair.

Mhmmm. I can totally relate. Not just with the feeling, but with the hair too.

Yeah. I really hate my hair down so I wear it up all of the time (even though I still hate it then and it probably makes it look even more stupid) but my friends keep on trying to take my hairties and I just can't stand it.
What makes it worse is 1. my hair is short so it's not like I can just take it down and let it flow 2. I had my hair down one time (it wasn't as bad as usual and I had to go to a nice place but I hated it the whole time) and I fted my friend who normally tries to take my hairtie and I know he's going to try to take it more often and won't give it back when we get back to school

You could play around with different simple styles like braids, and see how you like it, and if you have a flat iron or curling iron, you could mess with that and see if you like it better. How short is your hair?

I know many people in my grade (8th) that are in stable and healthy relationships.

Darling, things look more innocent from the outside, and you're innocent yourself so I don't expect you to have noticed this but
I guarantee 90% of those "stable and healthy relationships" consist of them having sex and getting über jealous at every little thing

8th graders (and I say this as a sophomore with multiple friends in 8th grade) are not ready for a romantic and/or sexual relationship. They're children and not even in high school, and it takes an amount of emotional maturity that they lack to be in a real relationship. I'd say even freshmen and some sophomores lack it. Speaking on my own experiences as an eighth grader, they weren't genuine relationships, just "he's cute, I'll text him and we'll be ~dating~" for a few weeks, tops, and then 'break up' and it's awkward for everyone.

The person I'm currently dating, I have been dating since the start of 8th grade… Just so you know.

And? You're not in eighth grade anymore.

No, but even before I was in the 8th grade, I had some pretty serious relationships.
I dated a guy called Lucas for a year and a half, I still remember the way he was there for me when I felt so sad.
I dated a guy named Liam for a year who would listen to me perform in front of the school at lunch, and who didn't get mad at me for being a really bad cook back then.
I dated a guy named Ashley who took me on my first ever "Valentines Cinema Date", who laughed and joked with me even when I beat him in the school bake off (I mean I do make a pretty mean jam tart).

And then Josh. Oh my wonderful amazing Josh.
We met each other towards the end of 7th grade, I was stood behind a tree just singing to myself, and to be frank I was actually quite sad.
He was dating one of my friends at the time, so I didn't think we would become anything more than friends.
However he soon realised that, even as a friend, I cared for him way more than his girlfriend ever did.
We were in the 7th grade.

You talk about emotional maturity, and that 8th graders lack that. That they wouldn't be in a real relationship because of their "lack".
In my own experience, I have proven otherwise.
Do NOT make such a bold assumption based on your own experiences and what your friends do.
It is not the same for every individual person, do not include everyone in your statement.

Okay, and? You're doing exactly what you accused me of doing: making a bold assumption based on the experiences of you and your friends. I was saying what I saw firsthand at a K-8 school, and past that with my friends that age, and apparently it's bad when I say that but not you?? All I'm saying is that most eighth graders don't have the emotional maturity, but you seem to have. What do you want, a gold star or something??
Plus how can you say that my statement about the maturity of eighth graders is wrong when you simultaneously say that you're thousands of years old or whatever? Seems a bit contradictory to me.

Plus how can you say that my statement about the maturity of eighth graders is wrong when you simultaneously say that you're thousands of years old or whatever? Seems a bit contradictory to me.

Learn to know who is talking.

Plus how can you say that my statement about the maturity of eighth graders is wrong when you simultaneously say that you're thousands of years old or whatever? Seems a bit contradictory to me.

Learn to know who is talking.

Why should I if all you'll do is contradict me? You seem to have decided that you hate me, judging by your incessant need to criticize every damn thing I say, and frankly I couldn't give less of a damn about your opinion. I said what I felt based on my experiences, and you felt the need to jump in and flip your lid at me despite multiple other people saying the same and agreeing. And maybe I don't care who is talking because I have god-awful memory recall and have much more important things to remember.

Gods I've never wanted to laugh so hard in my life.

Oh well.
I'll just actually vent.
Do you ever just have a really big insecurity that you hate about yourself but people don't seem to get how big it is so they try to make you face it or don't even realize that it is an insecurity at all so they keep trying to make it happen but you just really can't.
Cause that's exactly what's happening to me with my hair.

Mhmmm. I can totally relate. Not just with the feeling, but with the hair too.

Yeah. I really hate my hair down so I wear it up all of the time (even though I still hate it then and it probably makes it look even more stupid) but my friends keep on trying to take my hairties and I just can't stand it.
What makes it worse is 1. my hair is short so it's not like I can just take it down and let it flow 2. I had my hair down one time (it wasn't as bad as usual and I had to go to a nice place but I hated it the whole time) and I fted my friend who normally tries to take my hairtie and I know he's going to try to take it more often and won't give it back when we get back to school

You could play around with different simple styles like braids, and see how you like it, and if you have a flat iron or curling iron, you could mess with that and see if you like it better. How short is your hair?

It's past my chin but not quite touching my shoulders. Also I don't tend to mess with it because I've never been good at doing hair and I'm always afraid I'm going to just jack it up more. My current plan is to try and grow it out fairly long and see how I like it then I guess?

Oh
Honestly I'm bad at hair too and if you take a flat iron to a few pieces of braid it at night it makes a big difference

You know, I've slowly started to realize that I've bitten off so much more than I can chew in nearly every aspect of my life and that 2020 is either going to be the year I get everything together or it'll be the final plunge.
Like, I was on an upward trend at the end of 2019, so I'm holding out hope that that'll continue into the 2020s as opposed to it being absolutely horrible, but I'm honestly not sure what I can do at this point to not be an absolute wreck of a person and I'd be lying if I said it had nothing to do with the incessant "but what about college!?" thing that schools are so keen on because they expect us to know exactly what we want to do, and where, and with who, and for what and yet they don't tell us how at all! They don't tell us what factors to consider, or what pros and cons we should weigh, or any of that.

You know, I've slowly started to realize that I've bitten off so much more than I can chew in nearly every aspect of my life and that 2020 is either going to be the year I get everything together or it'll be the final plunge.
Like, I was on an upward trend at the end of 2019, so I'm holding out hope that that'll continue into the 2020s as opposed to it being absolutely horrible, but I'm honestly not sure what I can do at this point to not be an absolute wreck of a person and I'd be lying if I said it had nothing to do with the incessant "but what about college!?" thing that schools are so keen on because they expect us to know exactly what we want to do, and where, and with who, and for what and yet they don't tell us how at all! They don't tell us what factors to consider, or what pros and cons we should weigh, or any of that.

^^^^^

Gods I've never wanted to laugh so hard in my life.

Wow, I'm so insulted by this. What a necessary and relevant comment that does nothing but prove me right. Nice try though. Now since I'm clearly just some stupid teenager who's not worth your time, maybe just leave me alone instead of using me as some punching bag?

Gods I've never wanted to laugh so hard in my life.

Wow, I'm so insulted by this. What a necessary and relevant comment that does nothing but prove me right. Nice try though. Now since I'm clearly just some stupid teenager who's not worth your time, maybe just leave me alone instead of using me as some punching bag?

I'm over it shrugs

Like, why are we spending more time doing the pacer test than we are discussing our futures?! Why is phys ed a mandatory class but nothing financial is? Why do we take classes that won't benefit us unless we go into that field as mandatory ones, yet Money 101 and Foods are electives?!

Gods I've never wanted to laugh so hard in my life.

Wow, I'm so insulted by this. What a necessary and relevant comment that does nothing but prove me right. Nice try though. Now since I'm clearly just some stupid teenager who's not worth your time, maybe just leave me alone instead of using me as some punching bag?

I'm over it shrugs

Then act like it. I'll leave you alone if you leave me alone. I'm willing to put all of this behind me if you treat me like I'm not a damn fruit fly.

And don't even get me started on the way they teach core classes, and what the mandatory things are. English 10 is learning things I've known since middle school, but since it's mandatory by the state I can't opt out.

And don't even get me started on the way they teach core classes, and what the mandatory things are. English 10 is learning things I've known since middle school, but since it's mandatory by the state I can't opt out.

Yeah, the only thing I liked about my sophomore English class was we did was that my teacher was obsessed with the ACT and we did ACT prep for a whole quarter but I didn't get to take it last year and now I've forgotten all of it