Long kind of rant incoming:
I love questioning my gender 😔
There's always the "am I seeking attention?" "Am I just following what my non-cis friends are doing?"
But like… a lot of it is me getting in touch with who I am, which maybe I wasn't comfortable with before. Getting called a boy, made fun of for body hair, and all that kind of struck a nerve when I was in a vulnerable life stage. But now, if I was presenting more masculine, I wouldn't be angry if I got called "he," I don't think. And I'm so much more comfortable with androgyny. I think I maybe went through some time of overcompensation? Sure, I do love to present very feminine some days, but that's not all of who I am.
Not to mention those urges to cut my hair short- which my friends are kind of all encouraging lmao.
Do I say anything? Or do I just present how I want and stay quiet? Like my fiance knows I'm questioning, and they're supportive, but like. How do I go about labels? Pronouns? Do I bother? I mean, they don't really use a label themself. Just they/them pronouns and call it a day. But I've found that choosing labels helps me understand myself a little more. Though more obscure labels can be tricky.