| Bad: It is selfish to put your needs before others. |
Good: You have a right to put yourself first sometimes. |
| Bad: It is shameful to make mistakes. You should have an appropriate response to every situation. |
Good: You have every right to make mistakes. |
| Bad: If you can't convince others that your feelings are reasonable, then the feeling must be wrong, or maybe you are going crazy. |
Good: You have the right to be the final judge of your feelings and accept them as legitimate. |
| Bad: You should respect the views of others, especially if they are in a position of authority. |
Good: You have a right to your own opinions and convictions. |
| Bad: You should always try to be logical and consistent. |
Good: You have a right to change your mind or decide on a different course of action. |
| Bad: You should be flexible and adjust. Others have good reasons for their actions and it's not polite to question them. |
Good: You have a right to protest unfair treatment and criticism. |
| Bad: You should never interrupt people. Asking questions reveals your stupidity to others. |
Good: You have a right to interrupt in order to ask for clarification. |
| Bad: Things could get even worse, don't rock the boat. |
Good: You have a right to negotiate for change. |
| Bad: You shouldn't take up other's valuable time with your problems. |
Good: You have a right to ask for help or emotional support. |
| Bad: People don't want to hear that you feel bad, so keep it to yourself. |
Good: You have a right to feel and express pain. |
| Bad: When someone takes the time to give you advice, you should take it very seriously. They are often right. |
Good: You have a right to ignore the advice of others. |
| Bad: Knowing you did something well is it's own reward. People don't like show offs. Successful people are secretly disliked and envied. Be modest when complimented. |
Good: You have the right to receive formal recognition for your work and achievements. |
| Bad: You should try to accommodate others. If you don't they won't be there when you need them. |
Good: You have a right to say no. |
| Bad: Don't be antisocial, people will think you don't like them if you say you'd rather be alone than with them. |
Good: You have the right to be alone even if others would like your company. |
| Bad: You should always have a good reason for doing what you do. |
Good: You don't have any obligation to justify yourself to others. |
| Bad: When someone is in trouble, you should help them. |
Good: You have a right to not take responsibility for someone else's problem. You always have a choice. |
| Bad: You should be sensitive to the needs and wants of others, even when they are unable to tell you what the want. |
Good: You have a right not to anticipate others' needs and wishes. |
| Bad: It's always a good policy to stay on people's good sides. |
Good: You have a right not to always worry about the goodwill of others. |
| Bad: It's not nice to put other people off. If questioned, give an answer. |
Good: You have a right to choose not to respond to a situation. |
