How to write this without making it gross

Trigger warning: Grooming, Domestic abuse, Sexual assualt, CP

One of my arcs in my plot, I have two characters who may be problematic

First there's theirs the rival, He's a incubus who is his backstory who was in debt after his adoptive mother died, so to make money

Then there's his dad, who's a hedonistic, manipulative sadist, who treat people's as toys in his past there's a section where he

These characters themes relate to lust _{for context this has the seven deadly sins as motifs}, objectacation, and desire but I worry that I would botch it up, make it seem problematic, since all the sexual content, and make it something like the Exaphon or dollieguts situation

IDK, tbh I a bit dirty writing this

Okay, let's see… What's the specific question you're asking? If you're asking whether or not it's possible to write this without being too dirty, then… I think it'll be a little dirty regardless, and may technically have a mature rating, but you can do it without making it overboard if you avoid being too explicit with your descriptions of the scenario. The way I see it, a writer has the power to make any scenario as safe or mature as they want to just by choosing the amount of descriptions they put. Gore is a good example. One writer may simply write that the man's head was cut off by a sword— which is, yes, violent and such— but another writer may go into deep descriptions of how it took several swings, how the jolt of the blade could be felt when it made contact with the spine, the sound of the to-be-executed's screams, the blood, etc. etc. etc. If someone were to go into much more detail than I did, they could make that single scene— the man's head being chopped off— much more terrifying and therefore mature in rating. The same in my opinion goes towards romantic and sexual encounters between characters. So, how pertinent are these elements to your story, and do you intend to describe them in detail?

Well, I don't want it seem as edgy, seen as problematic or to be imitiated and glamorized. I guess regarding to details, I typically want to focus on the incubus's loss of self and with the dad, it mainly focused on Despair dude's trauma caused by the incubus's dad, who's kind of shitty person