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LGBTQ+ people, feel free to leave a tip or ask for advice on writing queer characters or romance irl or something like that. Also, you can drop random quotes or links to gay videos (as long as they're appropriate)

i would love to but i am a hopeless queer so i have literally no idea

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Lmaoo sameee

i mean when i'm reading an LGBTQ+ book i like it when queer relationships are written the same as someone would write a straight relationship. like there's really no romantic differences. i hope that kind of helps whoever needs it?

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i would love to but i am a hopeless queer so i have literally no idea

me too, I'm looking for help myself, so I think that we're in the same boat

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gays! kiss the guy or the gal, you won't regret it.

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^^^^

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i mean when i'm reading an LGBTQ+ book i like it when queer relationships are written the same as someone would write a straight relationship. like there's really no romantic differences. i hope that kind of helps whoever needs it?

the only problem is that a look of books about queer relationships are mostly written with the same plot: boy meets boy (or girl meets girl), after a while they get together and then break up because of a misunderstanding or injury to one of the characters. One of the parents is usually some kind of homophobic and there's always the old ex and bullies. Not that all of that isn't realistic, it's just that it's overwritten and I'm looking for some queer fantasy books. Six of Crows and Crooked Kingdom does a good job with Wylan and Jesper

i mean when i'm reading an LGBTQ+ book i like it when queer relationships are written the same as someone would write a straight relationship. like there's really no romantic differences. i hope that kind of helps whoever needs it?

the only problem is that a look of books about queer relationships are mostly written with the same plot: boy meets boy (or girl meets girl), after a while they get together and then break up because of a misunderstanding or injury to one of the characters. One of the parents is usually some kind of homophobic and there's always the old ex and bullies. Not that all of that isn't realistic, it's just that it's overwritten and I'm looking for some queer fantasy books. Six of Crows and Crooked Kingdom does a good job with Wylan and Jesper

yeah i get what you mean

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i mean when i'm reading an LGBTQ+ book i like it when queer relationships are written the same as someone would write a straight relationship. like there's really no romantic differences. i hope that kind of helps whoever needs it?

the only problem is that a look of books about queer relationships are mostly written with the same plot: boy meets boy (or girl meets girl), after a while they get together and then break up because of a misunderstanding or injury to one of the characters. One of the parents is usually some kind of homophobic and there's always the old ex and bullies. Not that all of that isn't realistic, it's just that it's overwritten and I'm looking for some queer fantasy books. Six of Crows and Crooked Kingdom does a good job with Wylan and Jesper

Crier's War by Nina Varela is an excellent queer fantasy novel, and We Are Okay by Nina LaCour is an excellent queer realistic fiction one!

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gays! kiss the guy or the gal, you won't regret it.

unless it makes the person really uncomfortable, please remember to respect boundaries!

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gays! kiss the guy or the gal, you won't regret it.

unless it makes the person really uncomfortable, please remember to respect boundaries!

update:
gays! kiss the guy or the gal if they're cool with it! you won't regret it.

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**Guy, gal, or ninbinary pal

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gays! kiss the guy or the gal, you won't regret it.

unless it makes the person really uncomfortable, please remember to respect boundaries!

update:
gays! kiss the guy or the gal if they're cool with it! you won't regret it.

update 2.0!
humans! kiss the human if they're cool with it! you won't regret it.

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And if you're not at risk of outing yourself or them <3

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And if you're not at risk of outing yourself or them <3

hence if they're cool with it, like if it's a risk then Don't Do It but if it's not and consent is given then DO IT!

y’all i accidentally kissed my best friend last week and they haven’t acknowledged it so i won’t either but i don’t regret it i might have had a crush on them for a while

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y’all i accidentally kissed my best friend last week and they haven’t acknowledged it so i won’t either but i don’t regret it i might have had a crush on them for a while

lmao a whole ass mood

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y’all i accidentally kissed my best friend last week and they haven’t acknowledged it so i won’t either but i don’t regret it i might have had a crush on them for a while

Was it really an accident?? sarcasm And it's totally normal to have a crush on your best friend, but I don't think that there's some kind of magical spell that will make things better, so talk to them (if you are comfortable with that and you have a pretty good idea of what they're going to say)

y’all i accidentally kissed my best friend last week and they haven’t acknowledged it so i won’t either but i don’t regret it i might have had a crush on them for a while

Was it really an accident?? sarcasm And it's totally normal to have a crush on your best friend, but I don't think that there's some kind of magical spell that will make things better, so talk to them (if you are comfortable with that and you have a pretty good idea of what they're going to say)

it actually was an accident. we’re really close so i went to go kiss them on the cheek and they tried to do the same thing at the same time so yeah. i don’t want to ruin anything so i’m definitely not going to talk to them about it anytime soon

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y’all i accidentally kissed my best friend last week and they haven’t acknowledged it so i won’t either but i don’t regret it i might have had a crush on them for a while

Was it really an accident?? sarcasm And it's totally normal to have a crush on your best friend, but I don't think that there's some kind of magical spell that will make things better, so talk to them (if you are comfortable with that and you have a pretty good idea of what they're going to say)

it actually was an accident. we’re really close so i went to go kiss him on the cheek and he tried to do the same thing at the same time so yeah. i don’t want to ruin anything so i’m definitely not going to talk to them about it anytime soon

that sounds so cute!!!!! If he tried to kiss you on the cheek while you were trying to kiss him on the cheek,,,,,, I would say it might be safe to talk about it

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i mean when i'm reading an LGBTQ+ book i like it when queer relationships are written the same as someone would write a straight relationship. like there's really no romantic differences. i hope that kind of helps whoever needs it?

the only problem is that a look of books about queer relationships are mostly written with the same plot: boy meets boy (or girl meets girl), after a while they get together and then break up because of a misunderstanding or injury to one of the characters. One of the parents is usually some kind of homophobic and there's always the old ex and bullies. Not that all of that isn't realistic, it's just that it's overwritten and I'm looking for some queer fantasy books. Six of Crows and Crooked Kingdom does a good job with Wylan and Jesper

Crier's War by Nina Varela is an excellent queer fantasy novel, and We Are Okay by Nina LaCour is an excellent queer realistic fiction one!

I've got a huge list of gay books if anyone is interested

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i mean when i'm reading an LGBTQ+ book i like it when queer relationships are written the same as someone would write a straight relationship. like there's really no romantic differences. i hope that kind of helps whoever needs it?

the only problem is that a look of books about queer relationships are mostly written with the same plot: boy meets boy (or girl meets girl), after a while they get together and then break up because of a misunderstanding or injury to one of the characters. One of the parents is usually some kind of homophobic and there's always the old ex and bullies. Not that all of that isn't realistic, it's just that it's overwritten and I'm looking for some queer fantasy books. Six of Crows and Crooked Kingdom does a good job with Wylan and Jesper

Crier's War by Nina Varela is an excellent queer fantasy novel, and We Are Okay by Nina LaCour is an excellent queer realistic fiction one!

I've got a huge list of gay books if anyone is interested

Same, both of ones I've read and can personally recommend, and ones I haven't where idk if they're good but they have good reviews.

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When you are writing a character that is in the LGBTQ+ community, don't just outright say, or make them say that they are gay. Idk to me when that happens it makes it feel forced, let the reader know they are gay, without outright saying it, but don't make them do something ridiculously gay either. Ease into it. Something like this.

This is an example of what not to do:

I walked out the story and looked into the sky and shouted at the top of my lungs, "I'm gay and no one can stop me!"

Here is another:

He grabbed the boys face and kissed him so long that it felt like days.

The first one is fine if you are writing a comedy (ig) and the second is fine if you are writing a… kinda sensual romance.

I feel it should be something like this:

We saw Marcus' eyes, we all knew what he was thinking, but we didn't dare say it. Maya nudged him in the shoulder, a sign that he should go for it. Marcus stood up and awkwardly walked over the the person. "H-hi… um…" he stumbled over his words, "I'm Marcus, and.. do you think I could get your number?" The person turned around, "Of course," He said kindly, "Nice to meet you Marcus, I'm Jake."

I don't know that wasn't my best but you know what I mean.

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I disagree, it depends on the setting. If it's realistic fiction, it's not unlikely for a character to reference their sexuality, like the whole "be gay, do crime" meme, or things like just casually mentioning it. For example, a lot of my friends are ace, and we make references to it a lot. And beyond that, sexuality is different for every person, because every person is different. One gay character might not mention their sexuality at all, and another might reference it frequently. If it's a fantasy, maybe not. My fantasy story has a lot of queer characters (though let's be real, practically all of my characters are queer) and their sexualities are pretty clear but never explicitly stated.

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True, idk that's just me. I don't like it when something like that feels forced.

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This is definitely not the chat for this conversation

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Does this count for Bisexuals too……