Cador: Speaking very gently One minute at a time, you just have to live one minute at a time. And maybe once you accomplish that you can start to look for things to live for. Then you have to forgive yourself, I know that seems impossible, but right now you're living with all of this anger and frustration and pain inside of you, it's scary to let all of that out. but it's doing so much harm. What happened was in the past, you can't go back and fix it, no matter how much you worry and obsess you can't fix it, So you have to forgive yourself. You aren't living with yourself, you're just living, you are you. Nothing can change that, so really you just have to live.