Ok I'll bullet point this LOL
is there going to be another potential love interest or a friend who wants to help her out of this situation but knows they cant really do anything because they know that if they break them up that it would ultimately lead to the extinction of their entire species.
No other love interest planned at this point, only because as a reader I find love triangles annoying. She will have friends that travel with her but they get separated by accident once they get to the True World.
Or could there be like an entire colony (going with the ant theme here) of other people that could possibly reproduce with her if she so choses to.
Nope. That's one of the key things fueling my romantic lead/villain.
And how technologically advanced is this universe could there be a way for her to artificially become pregnant and continue on the species that way in order to escape her (possibly abuse because he's a bad guy hiding behind a princely mask) boyfriend, and still continue the spiecies.
It's mostly spirit/magic based. There is some technology but in like a steampunk way. More like medieval, only because advanced technology as on Earth isn't needed. In Shadow world (Earth) humanity has evolved to create all sorts of tech bc they don't have the magic to do it.
Could this government be plotting to kill her to finally end their species and maybe that's why he goes 'bad' because he's really just trying to protect her and only doing it the best way he knows how.
There is no one overarching government. Just several governments that are connected by economy. The remnants of their species are nonreproductive and are in hiding. Romantic lead thinks he's doing the right thing but is being corrupted by someone else (offscreen, not interactive with other characters until book 3).
Who will the side characters be will she have parents (who are telling her this guys bad for her) or will they be gone because of the big cataclysm that happened before.
I'll put this in a reply later. Too long to type out now LOL
Will she having siblings are they older younger, that may try helping out?
Only child