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you're welcome to!
also @Whats_Up_Its_Brooklyn i know you were particularly interested in a chat like this
When in doubt, just imagine me poking you with a stick and saying "ho don't do it."
"Who got the least amount of sleep and who's doing the worst mentally" is not a game, do not play it. It's not a competition of who's doing the worst.
This is all the unsolicited advice I have right now, stay tuned, I'm sure I'll have more eventually
Yes, thank you very much.
Let's talk about dating as a Freshman since we're still kinda on this topic and it's probably something that lingers in every Freshie's mind.
Any tips, advice, story you would like to share?
okay again, like i said but it definitely should be reiterated
if you must date, don't do it as a freshman. freshman is your you year, your 'figuring out what the fuck is happening' year, and you do not need to factor in any relationships other than family and friends.
do not date anyone more than a grade above you and try to stick only one or two years above you if you must
i, as a sophomore this year, was fifteen. i developed a crush on a senior(who i did not know was a senior) who turned out to be eighteen(also didn't know that till after the crush started). we did end up dating after a weird couple of months(like half the school year) of him being fucking weird and then dating a fourteen year old freshman, which i should have seen as a red flag. especially because he ditched me as my homecoming date because i was only fifteen. he was full of shit and whatnot but
point is, i dated him, and i think we were about five/six months strong before i broke it off. around four months he started becoming kind of a piece of shit, guilt tripping and manipulating me, as well as lying to and stealing from my parents and then claiming he didn't remember stealing anything so
long story short, babes, learn to recognize clinical narcissists ahead of time
yeaaaaaaahhhh don’t date as a freshman at least in the first semester.
AND YALL BETTER NOT BE HAVING ANY SEXUAL RELATIONS AS A FRESHMAN ON GOD ESPECIALLY NOT WITH UPPERCLASSMEN
upperclassmen are icky, take it from one of them
no sex with upperclassmen. in general i feel like having sex with people you go to school with is bad cause like. some of them are dicks and are gonna be weird, gross, or braggy about it
so if you do, have sex with a bunch of people(safely!!) so that they can't feel special
also slut shaming isn't cool or sexy remember that
oh
and kids, read your school rules and dresscodes. all of it. yes, i'm fucking serious. know what rules to break, what rules exist, and how you can push the limits if you need or want to
and that way if an administrator or student gives you undeserved shit you can fire right back. i used to keep my school's rules on me, both in middle and highschool
we sign and agree but who says I read it
But yes know the stuff that you think could be used against you
Y'all don't have yours in your agendas?? We have to read the dress code and all the rules every year and then turn in a signed paper (us and a parent) saying that we agree
what is an agenda
in junior high we had school planners that had the rulebook in them, thats how i always had that one. in highschool i, a bitch, printed out the fucking dresscode and kept it in my backpack because people liked to get after me for wearing low cut things and having big tits. that was it really, i was too fat/curvy for them to let it be, students mainly
Y'all don't have yours in your agendas?? We have to read the dress code and all the rules every year and then turn in a signed paper (us and a parent) saying that we agree
what is an agenda
in junior high we had school planners that had the rulebook in them, thats how i always had that one. in highschool i, a bitch, printed out the fucking dresscode and kept it in my backpack because people liked to get after me for wearing low cut things and having big tits. that was it really, i was too fat/curvy for them to let it be, students mainly
Planners. We get one every year and they have a bunch of shit in them
we sign and agree but who says I read it
But yes know the stuff that you think could be used against you
ha you guys actually sign things
also the funniest thing to do is when i teacher is all like 'you signed the contract behave/no phones/whatever' pull the 'contracts signed by a minor are not legally binding'
like i'm not kidding they HATE it and it's so funny. my ela teacher this year thought it was hilarious though and let me finish what i was doing on my phone. he was also usually really chill though
we sign and agree but who says I read it
But yes know the stuff that you think could be used against youha you guys actually sign things
also the funniest thing to do is when i teacher is all like 'you signed the contract behave/no phones/whatever' pull the 'contracts signed by a minor are not legally binding'
like i'm not kidding they HATE it and it's so funny. my ela teacher this year thought it was hilarious though and let me finish what i was doing on my phone. he was also usually really chill though
That’s G R E A T
so if you do, have sex with a bunch of people(safely!!) so that they can't feel special
Um… obviously I say don't do the yiff. But I don't think doing lots of yiff in order to make anyone feel anything or not feel someone is anywhere near a good idea.
so if you do, have sex with a bunch of people(safely!!) so that they can't feel special
Um… obviously I say don't do the yiff. But I don't think doing lots of yiff in order to make anyone feel anything or not feel someone is anywhere near a good idea.
it was mostly a joke dw dom. unless that actually would work, you're okay with that, and would enjoy it, don't. don't ever force yourself to do anything like that
also yeah doin the devil's tango as a child is kinda. ew
but always have safe sex you guys! i will ship anyone who wants them tropical flavored condoms
i'm a couple years out of high school, but i'm gonna chime in here to give you my best piece of high school dating advice, which is if you do choose to date, don't get attached to anyone. don't assume you'll date for a long time, don't assume you'll go to the same college, don't assume you'll get married, don't become dependent on your partner, and don't stay in a relationship with someone because you've grown dependent on them. don't let them be your security, don't let them be your identity. you are too young to settle (and so is everyone, but you are especially) these next four years are a fleeting moment of your life, and one that you should enjoy as much as possible, but it is a period of experimentation, and your circumstances before and after high school probably won't be a lot like your circumstances during high school. first of all, hormones, brain still developing, all that jazz. second of all, people end up in very different places once they graduate, both physically and metaphysically. when i was in high school, i made aaaaall of these mistakes. i dated the same person from the middle of my freshman year until thanksgiving of my freshman year of college. we weren't a good fit, he was condescending and disrespectful and acted like i was dumb (i think because i was a uh, girl? even though i was way smarter than him?) but i became way too attached to him at an age when i was way too vulnerable. give yourself room to breathe! if you really love each other, great, i've got 2 friends who started dating when they were 14 and now they're 20 and still going strong, but if you're even a little bit uncertain, you have the right to call it. this is not the end-all be-all of your existence, you've got so much time
and you're right. if any of you little freshies take anything away from this ccb's advice is definitely a top contender for what it should be
not the knowledge that i have the ability to mail people flavored condoms
Yeah speaking from experience, never go into a relationship with the expectation of it going to be forever. That’s what typically makes you stay in an unhealthy one.
and you're right. if any of you little freshies take anything away from this ccb's advice is definitely a top contender for what it should be
not the knowledge that i have the ability to mail people flavored condoms
to be fair, the knowledge that you have the ability to mail people flavored condoms is very important
codependency is bad
also, you are under no obligation to be readily available all the time, be it texting back or listening to problems or hanging out or anything at all.
One of the important things I learned from my relationship is to know yourself before you go with someone else. Gain a bit of an understanding of who you are as an individual so you don't reduce that person to your hold in life, to say nothing of what it will do for you.
and you're right. if any of you little freshies take anything away from this ccb's advice is definitely a top contender for what it should be
not the knowledge that i have the ability to mail people flavored condoms
to be fair, the knowledge that you have the ability to mail people flavored condoms is very important
yes this is very very important knowledge
is it really though
No.
