so my aunt is severly immune compromised cause of other issues, and she plays the pity party card every fucking time. First she gave my cousin M anxiety bad enough to need medication over fear for her heart (bad to begin with) because she kept guilt tripping her and gaslighting her (stupid as hell things like 'can't go get starbucks, don't want to expose me' but M can't have a coffee maker cause it ruins the look of her kitchen).
Now its christmas and we're planning everything around her. She wasnt cookies? fine I'll go and make all 10 dozen cookies and frost them. She wants the christmas breakfast? great, my mom will go make that tomorrow at grandma's house just for her. She wants decorations? time to go decorate every wreath and tree (about 14 large tubs of ornaments) cause grandma just recovered from covid and a surgery and cant do it herself. And that's fine. My mom and I don't mind doing these things. But when she calls my grandma to guilt trip and complain about how her life sucks and everyone is excluding her, just. ugh. We are doing christmas in a cycle for her she's the one who's compromised. She never stays all day anyways so what's the problem in waiting to go over until she leaves? my immediate family has not had it and has been recently/possibliy exposed cause of school and work. We are planning everything around her and what she wants, and she has the audacity to try and call my already moderately depressed grandma to make her feel bad about 'making her leave early' and so we can 'enjoy chirstmas without her :('
tdlr, my aunt is a b trying to make everyone else feel guilty while we pander to her