Oh jeez you think all couples should be the same age?
mutters about delicate American sensibilitiesI Honestly forgot how different country’s right I was just upset that in my mind she’s underage
What does this mean? Also, Dom is American
Well I guess it’s in different states then, but the age of consent where I live in America is 18 so an 18 year old can’t date a 16 year old also I didn’t say they had to be the same age
Age of consent doesn't have to do with dating?? Just sex?? I thought??
Age of consent doesn't have to do with dating?? Just sex?? I thought??
I might be wrong
Age of consent doesn't have to do with dating?? Just sex?? I thought??
I might be wrong
As far as I know, it's legal for 16 year olds to date 18 year olds, it just isn't legal for them to have sex together
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Age of consent is about sex, not dating.
Also there's the Romeo and Juliet Clause, so there's that.
perks up The what?
Age of consent doesn't have to do with dating?? Just sex?? I thought??
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mutters about delicate American sensibilitiesI Honestly forgot how different country’s right I was just upset that in my mind she’s underage
Yeah I'm American. It's just that so many Americans have this "Oh! This is so icky!" reaction to so many things that I don't see how they make sense. Like an age difference of two years. My parents are more than that. I even know a quite happy couple who have been married for some time where the wife is eight years senior. Once again, Americans have such delicate (and odd) sensibilities. (Except when they don't and it's a kink now.)
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Romeo and Juliet Law, not clause.
my parents are ten years apart in age so like…i really don't see a problem with two years lmao
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mutters about delicate American sensibilitiesI Honestly forgot how different country’s right I was just upset that in my mind she’s underage
Yeah I'm American. It's just that so many Americans have this "Oh! This is so icky!" reaction to so many things that I don't see how they make sense. Like an age difference of two years. My parents are more than that. I even know a quite happy couple who have been married for some time where the wife is eight years senior. Once again, Americans have such delicate (and odd) sensibilities. (Except when they don't and it's a kink now.)
I think it's a bit different when they're both teens though. Not to mention that Four was in a position of power over Tris, since he was essentially her teacher.
mutters about delicate American sensibilitiesI Honestly forgot how different country’s right I was just upset that in my mind she’s underage
Yeah I'm American. It's just that so many Americans have this "Oh! This is so icky!" reaction to so many things that I don't see how they make sense. Like an age difference of two years. My parents are more than that. I even know a quite happy couple who have been married for some time where the wife is eight years senior. Once again, Americans have such delicate (and odd) sensibilities. (Except when they don't and it's a kink now.)
I think it's a bit different when they're both teens though. Not to mention that Four was in a position of power over Tris, since he was essentially her teacher.
When their romance started, they were in drastically different places in life. Really the only thing they had in common was the divergent abnegation to dauntless thing. do y'all remember the part in the first one where he was drunk or is that just me
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That was an uncomfortable scene.
Well the younger they are, the more the age gap is. I think two years is fine if the female is at least fourteen. (Though such a relationship would be stupidity.) Then as they got older, the age gap of a year would matter less and less. But honestly who are we to judge. If someone is over twenty they should be able to date someone fifteen years older than them if they so wish. Not wise imo, but we shouldn't stop them.
But yeah on the authority bit.
That was an uncomfortable scene.
Wait remind me?
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Okay so I look at it as life percentage… a two year age gap in college is nothing, but I’m 20 years old, so I can say that at 18, I was MUCH more mature than at 16 when such a difference doesn’t exist between me and a 22-year-old. So even from a dating standpoint there is a sizable difference in maturity when one person is still a teenager (and even beyond). And it’s also about power, like Jynnie said. This power can come through money, leadership position, or life experience. I’m uncomfortable with an 18-year-old and a 25-year old dating too. Same age gap as my parents. But they married at 29 and 30-something. An 18-year-old still has a lot of more child-like qualities, as they have not completed all development, nor have they fully experienced adulthood.
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That was an uncomfortable scene.
Wait remind me?
iirc, he got drunk and started flirting with Tris. But I'm not sure.
Okay so I look at it as life percentage… a two year age gap in college is nothing, but I’m 20 years old, so I can say that at 18, I was MUCH more mature than at 16 when such a difference doesn’t exist between me and a 22-year-old. So even from a dating standpoint there is a sizable difference in maturity when one person is still a teenager (and even beyond). And it’s also about power, like Jynnie said. This power can come through money, leadership position, or life experience. I’m uncomfortable with an 18-year-old and a 25-year old dating too. Same age gap as my parents. But they married at 29 and 30-something. An 18-year-old still has a lot of more child-like qualities, as they have not completed all development, nor have they fully experienced adulthood.
Yeah I'd say you and I mostly agree. At least in theory.
It's funny because after you turn like……22ish, age isn't really something you think about anymore.
Like Jay and I just happen to be the same age, but before him I dated people with vastly different gaps.
The more you mature the more it doesn't matter.
But you also tend to drift towards what you are around a lot. So if a 25 year old is in a college class with a bunch of 18 year olds then yea there will more than likely be some kind of relationship.
Dom: but why is thing that we all agree on right? Tell me NOW I MUST KNOW
It isn't necessarily.
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I appreciate the fact that you never let this die.
Unrealistic children I guess? I read Charlie Bone and that’s one thing I hated most about it.
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I appreciate the fact that you never let this die.
I Refuse to let this die. My pettiness must be preserved.
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A mood. We get some really good conversations going here though!
I really don't like over powered characters. Like when a character has never fought in their life and then they train for 2 days and suddenly they've mastered all forms of martial arts and are able to beat someone who's trained their whole life.
I agree; I also hate when a character uses a weapon they aren't used to with no problems (for example, even a well-trained archer would be at best a little off if the size, type, and draw weight of the bow they used wasn't exactly what they've trained with).
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Yeah, like bows aren't easy lmao. I tried to draw a compound bow once, and let's just say that didn't work out for me at all.
Also don't get the trope of "smol archer" because it does take some muscle to draw a bow.
